Learning to Say, “I Need Help” Is The Most Courageous Self-Care Act
Shelley Tygielski of Mindful explains the importance of taking some "me time” so that you may heal and revitalize your mental state from the harmful effects of the hectic world that we live in today.
Taking a moment means intentionally shifting behavior, and, in today’s “busy or bust” world this can have consequences. For instance, we might resist due to fear of judgment (others may look at us as slackers). Or, we might worry that pausing will cause us to fall further behind in our already overwhelming workload. We might even fool ourselves into believing we’ll break later, knowing full well that later will be just as hectic as the present. The point is, we cling to excuses because it’s easier than owning up to our own needs. Self-sacrifice has become more acceptable than self-care.
The good news is, when we finally find the self-awareness to take that moment something remarkable happens. When we get quiet, things that are important to us get really loud. Our capacity for creativity is enhanced. Our perspectives on life become clearer. We realize how important self-care is, and grasp the major role it plays in our ability to feel strong, maintain focus, stay engaged, push for change, and live our best lives.
Shelley reveals the 3 self-care tools to help claim your healing time.
1) The Confession Statement: Name it to Tame It
2) The Pre-Ask: Asking For Help or Space Before You Actually Need It
3) The Kindness Factor: Remember That People Love To Help
She concludes with the idea that if we can acknowledge our fears, burdens, self-doubt and limitations, “we open up a dialogue that is essential to self-care.”